It’s completely understandable if your divorce is making you feel as though you are losing your sanity. Divorce is, after all, one of the top stress-inducing life events on the planet. That feeling can be made worse when you observe public figures going through the same ordeal, but they seem to handle their business with ease.
It’s important to keep in mind that divorce is hard on everyone — yes, even Hollywood celebrities — and there really isn’t any magical list or solution that will make everything instantly better. But fear not — there are a couple things you can do to relieve the pressure and help keep your head on straight. Here are the things Hollywood celebrities do to stay sane during a divorce.
They keep things private … or at least they try to
As The Huffington Post points out, there is a common thread between your divorce and that of your favorite celebrity: People outside of the matter are going to speculate. But that doesn’t mean that you are obligated to inform the whole world of your business as if you’re a TMZ spread. If you don’t want to talk about this personal matter with work colleagues or certain members of your social circle, you don’t have to. You have the right to keep the details of your divorce to yourself, or at least in very close company.
They roll with a close-knit squad
Any column that gives information on coping with a divorce will advise you to keep a group of supportive peoplearound, whether that is family or friends. While that piece of advice is true, you also want to make sure you have the right people around you. Have individuals around that know how you cope with stressful situations — people who know when to offer a solution and when to just be a shoulder to cry on. Having the right company around will help with your mental strain.
They work on their revenge bodies
There’s a reason Hollywood’s elite emerge from divorces looking extra svelte. This is in part due to exercise being a great way to clear your head and alleviate stress.
As U.S. News explains, exercise releases endorphins in your brain that make you feel happier, in addition to helping relieve anxiety and help you sleep better. And that’s all in addition to the fact that you’ll be getting into great shape! The best part is that any kind of exercise is good for you — join one of your supportive buddies for a fitness class or make yourself a killer playlist and jog down to the beach solo.
They consult a professional
The practice of consulting a therapist can get a bad rap. But really, it can help you process things more clearly and stay a bit more sane.
GoodTherapy.org tells us that “working with a therapist can provide an objective and rational perspective and arm a person with the necessary skills to work through the difficulties of the divorce.” Having an experienced individual help you obtain a better perspective will do wonders for your mental state during this tough time. Not to mention, give you better perspective for after the divorce. (More on that in just a minute.)
They take ‘treat yourself’ to another level
We already talked about how great exercise is for de-stressing and clearing your head during a divorce. But making low-impact stress reducers part of your daily regimen is great as well. The more you try to engage in stress-reducing activities during your divorce, the more sound your mind and body will be.
Take that yoga class, start meditating every morning, go on a long walk down the beach. You get the idea.
They indulge in everyday delights
As cheesy as it sounds, getting wrapped up in small positive things is a great way to keep your head on straight when you are trying to cope during a divorce. Listen to really good music or go see a live show! Try a new restaurant, watch a funny movie, or whatever puts your mind at ease. Enjoying these things, no matter how small they seem, helps give your brain a rest from worrying about anything divorce-related.
They accept the situation
Yes, it’s hard to look ahead when the present is rough. Heck, maybe you need to have a good cry every now and then. But wallowing isn’t good for your sanity, either. Although you might be in the thick of divorce proceedings, it is best to start preparing your mindset for when it’s all over. Focusing too much onto your now-former partner is awaste of energy and mental faculties. In order to keep some kind of grasp on your sanity, it is best to start prepping for the future. (Maybe that support group you’ve assembled can help you move on.)